@Samanticka
I wrote this post about acceptance v cure last year. Shorter message: who pays costs of acceptance & inclusion & can all pay & receive to decent living standard? https://selfadvocacyskepticism.blogspot.com/2017/03/social-acceptance-goal-of-autism.html?m=1
12:43 PM · Jan 23, 2018·Twitter for iPhone
in 2018, led to this twitter conversation. @slooterman joined in and replied too but both account controllers have since deleted their tweets. Screenshots replace links because of tweet deletions since 2018.
@slooterman in the first 3 screenshots divided views of individual critic of neurodiversity movement, autismgadfly, as his personal views, unrelated to failure to find adequate LTSS in HCBS in his community, while centering most intense needs autistics in neurodiversity-informed activism demands. @slooterman divided an autistic community from an autistic constituency by supporting the status quo of organizing a larger community to advocate for a smaller constituency. Since 2011 autistic self-advocacy as done by ASAN partnered with the intense needs/low functioning ID/DD (formerly MR) group Self Advocates Becoming Empowered SABE. Activism followed model with more inclusive rhetoric. Being able to drive, afford a car and live alone in an apartment still without a job is not a fully independent life. @autismgadfly is blaming the activists not the legislators of one party, Republican, who balk at spending any money for domestic discretionary programs. That reluctance leads activists/self advocates to narrow the community into a smaller constituency with demands for more funding for LTSS delivered in HCBS.
@slooterman replied to my account @nyr194 agreeing with me that private contractors are not better than public services. The link she posted is inaccessible by twitter but one troubled ID group home contractor has rebranded after being exposed.
I also posted this to try to understand @autismgadfly's anti-neurodiversity and pro-cure (or what @autismgadfly means by a cure for his autism) politics.
This was one of the replies posted by autismgadfly.
@autismgadfly
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Jan 25, 2018
but, yes, the post claiming I came to these conclusions due to bad financial circumstances and being left behind is absolutely false and typical of the dishonest statements ND's constantly write.
Twitter account @lauralovesian1 replying “You are free to express your views” is condescending and a backhanded compliment. @autismgadfly is 'Free to express' as long as others never agree making him an ‘influencer’ or persuasive. If @autismgadfly views become persuasive then others feel entitled to attack gadfly by calling the views problematic then bigoted (ableist).
Some words on special needs moms in horror movies
The Babadook and other updates
Sara
Oct 12 [2020]
Heads up, folks: This week’s newsletter is about the portrayal of filicide in fiction. There is some very graphic description of filicide, and ideas about filicide. There are also spoilers for The Babadook.
In October, we watch horror movies.
COVID-19 may have prevented me from seeing my family for the Jewish High Holidays, but it can’t prevent me from a cherished tradition with my partner. I love horror movies. I wasn’t allowed to watch them as a kid — My mother was concerned about violence in media — So they’re forbidden fruit. Part of the pleasure is the sense of transgression. I’ve been living independently for years, but watching a horror movie still feels very much like I’m getting away with something.
Most recently, I saw The Babadook for the first time. And it may be one of the most disturbing horror movies I’ve ever seen. There are a lot of murderous mothers in horror movies. In The Conjuring, for example, an evil spirit possesses a mother in order to induce her to kill her own children. These stories are presented in stark moral terms. Killing one’s own children is seen as the ultimate evil, something that could only come from demonic influence or a cartoonish sort of mental illness.
But that’s not the case in The Babadook. In The Babadook, we’re encouraged to empathize and understand why a woman might be driven to kill her own child. This isn’t just my own interpretation of the film — The director, Jennifer Kent, has been fairly explicit about it.
"Now, I'm not saying we all want to go and kill our kids, but a lot of women struggle. And it is a very taboo subject, to say that motherhood is anything but a perfect experience for women."
In The Babadook, a mother, Amelia, is having a very difficult time. Her husband died driving her to the hospital. Her son, Samuel, has significant behavioral issues — He screams, makes makeshift weapons, talks endlessly about monsters, and is occasionally violent. He wakes her almost every night, so she hasn’t gotten much sleep. While there is no explicit reference to a condition like autism or ADHD, his behavior is painfully familiar. Amelia is exhauasted, sleep deprived, and struggles at work. Her sister rejects Samuel, and by extension, rejects Amelia. And the viewer is drawn deeper and deeper into sympathizing with Amelia.
Amelia has little support, but she also actively pushes support away. In one of the earliest scenes in the movie, Samuel’s teachers suggest that Samuel get a 1-to-1 aide. Instead, Amelia pulls him out of school. Amelia’s neighbor, a kind old woman named Gracie Roach, offers kind words and to even let Samuel sleep over. But Amelia refuses. She stops going to work. Slowly, Amelia and Samuel become more and more isolated, as they are hunted by a monster called the Babadook. Amelia, exhausted and terrified, becomes more and more violent, eventually killing the family dog before attempting to kill Samuel.
Many other critics have interpreted the Babadook to be a representation of grief — It is impossible to get rid of the Babadook. Instead, the Babadook, and by extension, grief, is something you have to learn to live with. But I think the Babadook is also embodied, murderous ableism. And while I’m disturbed by Jennifer Kent’s assertion that this is a tAbOo we should talk about, I appreciate that the Babadook is not portrayed as normal. Not everyone has a Babadook. Not everyone disabled has a Babadook. The neighbor, who has Parkinson’s, doesn’t have a Babadook. The seniors confined to the dementia ward where Amelia works don’t have a Babadook. The Babadook isn’t seen as natural or as an inevitability, and I appreciate that. Ultimately, Amelia does not kill her son. Instead, she learns to live with her darker impulses, without letting them consume her.
on her substack page that rustedaspie (I) subscribed to from May 2020 until she deleted it in August 2021.
Although he will likely deny the point, @autismgadfly has a Babadook against neurodiversity and self-advocate operated organizations because he didn’t get the accommodations or supports to hold a job that Sara Luterman got. Getting inclusion, acceptance, LTSS in HCBS and reasonable accommodations (paid for by one or more levels of government because individuals cannot pay the full cost) help people with disabilities drop their individual Babadooks. Neurodiversity self advocates fail to help as many people drop their individual Babadooks as they claim. That leads to 'drama' (conflict) between autistics arguing about neurodiversity. Confidentiality conceals the inequities, inequalities and the self-advocacy movement failures. Confidentiality also privatizes the costs of that change for some people (less intense needs/ not severe disabilities) and socializes the costs for other people (intense needs/severe disabilities). Some people who need to privatize those costs of improved independent living situations 'get that' and are share their justified resentment for the inequitable help that they still are reluctant to discuss in public discourse.